I have prayed constantly for God to send me the right person… for him to place that person in my life so that I can notice him. I say that prayer nearly nightly, and when I wake up the next day I live the same single life that I have been living for the last 19 months.
And I wonder… is God listening?
I think a lot of us, if not all of us, seek a companion at some point in our lives and we wait in hope for him to come along an sweep us off our feet. And for a lot of us, it doesn’t always happen that way. And so we try a different route that doesn’t involve God. We go to the club, and then expect to find a Godly man, encased in Christian wrapping; a dash of old school gentleman thrown in; with a spoon of understanding.
What we actually get, is a guy who claims to be Christian while he checks out every angle of your figure; who believes he is a gentleman because he tried to engage in conversation before he attempted to take you home to his bed; and who ‘understands’ that though you sayyy you’re a Christian you are just putting on a show so that he’ll ‘work’ for your company in his bed.
And so with neither option leading to any real success you sit back and complain that you are lonely.
I have been there… I have made numerous mistakes. I have gone forward and then backwards. The realisation I came to is this:
1) I cannot make the right person come into my life any faster. I am powerless. I have no control over when he comes. I only have control over how I RESPOND when he does arrive in my life. But until that point, I.am.powerless. This is something we must accept.
2) As annoying as it sounds, We need this time to work on ourselves. To mature romantically. I personally, have no clue how to deal competently with the opposite sex… and I’m not even sure why… (to be analysed at another time). So I need to figure out how to be comfortable with men in general before I can have my own.
3) Falling in love is, in large part, usually unexpected. Which is scary and fun all at the same time. So trying to predict when it’ll come, and making timetables and goals for romance is pretty useless, and honestly a waste of time (see point 1.) The harsh reality is, we must embrace it and accept it.
4) Have faith that it will happen. God has not forgotten you. Everything has a time and a place. Exercise patience - easier said than done, I know. But not impossible.
This was my little stream of consciousness - I hope it helped someone.
I’ll be doing a series of love related posts for the final days of 2013, so keep an eye out.